It is wonderful to be a girl!
At this point in time girls, you have more possibilities and choices to develop your talents. You can set your goals and accomplish them and you have the ability to follow your hearts and dreams as well as plan for your futures and ensure you make it happen. With all the opportunities, it might become difficult to make the right choices. Nowadays, you are faced with so many pressures … fitting in, achieving your goals and dreams, as well as living up to society’s expectations of what and who you should be. All of this can break you, especially when you don’t feel pretty, popular, talented, socially accepted, or loved at home and by important people around you, especially boys (‘ha ha haaaa!’). Your self-esteem is one of the internal guiding systems that will steer you to safety or danger.
We are not born with high self-esteem; it is enhanced and reshaped as we grow and encounter various experiences. I want you to become a young lady and woman with wonderful self-esteem. Here are some tips on how to build your self-esteem:
i) Stay relaxed
Always strive to see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you are taking a closer look at the things you're not so good at.
ii) Take inventory of your strengths
Everybody is good at something, and many people are good at quite a few things. Even if you don't have a talent or strength that you're aware of, you probably have some interests you can develop into strengths. Make a list of a few things you're good at and a few things you're interested in and would like to be better at. Share this list with your parents, an aunt or uncle, or a friend you like and trust. They can probably help you find other things you're good at, too, and help you come up with a plan for developing other skills and interests.
iii) Realize your limits
- Nobody's perfect -- not even close. It may not always seem this way, but it's true. So if you weren't born a good singer, a super athlete or a great business woman, that's OK. You have a personality and a perspective on the world that's all your own and completely valuable -- even if you sulk at cooking, have a big nose or look terrible in dresses.
iv) Stop putting yourself down
Now! One of the biggest things that keep people from achieving their goals -- and feeling good about themselves -- is negative self-talk. In other words, telling yourself that you're a loser or a failure puts a big damper on your ability to get what you want and be who you want. If you don't do well at a particular project or task, it doesn't mean that you never will. Perhaps you weren't prepared or the time simply wasn't right. It doesn't mean that you're a lousy human being or that you'll never succeed. It's OK to be upset for a bit when things don't go your way, but after a little while, let it go and move on. You'll be that much closer to achieving what you want if you do.
v) Celebrate progress and small victories
Did you help your neighbor or do something positive for your community despite feeling nervous? Give credit where credit's due: You did it, and you rule! And guess what? You can tackle bigger, harder projects, too.